Thanks to those who volunteered to take the "chapter comparison" test. I have five takers, and that's enough! The submission desk is now closed. *grin*
On another note, is it just me, or have I heard all about this "Advice from Dear Abby" letter that appeared this past week?
Here's the letter:
GAY BROTHER TAKES A STAND BY BOYCOTTING MAN'S WEDDING
DEAR ABBY: I am being married this summer to my fiancee of five years, "Beth." I had always assumed that my brother, "Mike," who is also my best friend, would be my best man. Mike is gay. When I asked him, I was stunned at his response. Mike said he loves me and Beth, but refuses to be part of a ceremony celebrating something for which he is discriminated against emotionally, financially and socially. He refuses even to attend.
Now that I have been forced to confront this issue, I realize my brother is right. Beth thinks he should "get over it," and he needs to accept that it's just "the way things are in the world."
As hurt as I am, I can't hold against my brother his refusal to participate in what he refers to as a "reminder that he is considered a second-class citizen without the same civil rights" as I have.
How can I handle this without turning it into something that could overshadow what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life? -- DISAPPOINTED IN WESTLAKE, OHIO
DEAR DISAPPOINTED: By respecting your brother's decision, and reminding your bride-to-be that accepting the status quo is not always the best thing to do. Women were once considered chattel, and slavery was regarded as sanctioned in the Bible. However, western society grew to recognize that neither was just. Canada, Belgium, the Netherlands and Spain have recognized gay marriage, and one day, perhaps, our country will, too.
Now, don't get me wrong. I think that what Abby had to say was nice and all that. And, seriously, how could she really say anything different? Well, I suppose she could, and God bless her for taking a stand, because she'll probably get angry letters one way or another, but...
But doesn't it strike you that the gay brother is being just a bit self-centered? I mean, this is his brother's big day, and he's doing him the honor of asking him to be his best man. He very much wants this guy to be a part of the most important (and most potentially miserable) day of his life. Why make it a political thing?
I don't know, maybe it's because I already had the opportunity to have a big old marriage--and could do so again, in Massachsetts. But I just couldn't imagine, unless I really disliked the person, refusing to be best man--and refusing to attend. That's just a bit too strident, for my tastes. Don't make it all about you, on someone else's big day, please. Especially people that are being supportive.
The only thing I didn't like was the "that's the way things are in the world" comment. However, I have a feeling that's because the bride was probably trying to support her groom, who was disappointed and hurt by the response he received from his brother.