What's really cool about having the same people in your life for so long is that you get to watch the fabric of their lives unfold.
There's Pauline, who has been involved in an on-again/off-again relationship with Bob for well over a decade. He's twenty years older than she is, pushing sixty, and still is unwilling to settle with any one woman, even though Pauline's the closest that he's ever come to truly feeling whole.
Or my friend, Buns, who spent years looking for the man of her dreams, only to discover that she had met him in high school and totally passed him over. And now they're married and she has a one-year-old and looks totally frazzled...and totally content.
Or, our friend, Deb, who was always the trampiest out of all of us in high school (she once rewarded a guy for driving him home by giving him a blowjob, and when asked about it, quipped, "Ah, blowjobs are like candy.") Now, she's totally devoted to her son, almost to the point of obsession, and follows the poor kid around as though every step he takes is going to be his last.
Or, Pauline's friend Marcia, who has gorilla arms and is dating a guy with cancer. "I can't stand blood or puke or snot," she said, with her usual ignorance of social grace. "But when he received pictures of his three pound tumor, I couldn't wait to see them!"
Or, Josie's best friend Donna, who was flashing around an engagement ring she received from a commercial fisherman she met just six months ago. Donna's a therapist, and had anyone come to her saying they were getting engaged after just two months, she would have told them that the were just manifesting their addictive personality in a peculiar new way. In her eyes, of course, it's a case of finding her soul mate.
But these are the stories I love catching up on, to discover what strange new twists have taken place since we last met. Pauline always questions why I love LJ so, and I always give her a line about taking the fabric of my life and turning it into a story, and she always asks why I don't just write them down and share them with my friends. And perhaps she has a point, in a way.
When I first starting keeping a journal, many years ago, I wrote it in the third person, and it was mostly a chronicle of the lives of the people around me. I had a fascination with the day by day progressions that make a person's life evolve over time. I still have that same fascination today, and perhaps it would be worth it to tell a few tales about those around me, too, other than just the Corb/Josie stuff.
Today, summer mode went into full swing, and Corb and I spent the day exploring Boston with the kids. It was great fun, and we arrived home at seven, totally exhausted. Next Saturday we plan to travel to Provincetown on Saturday, and then take the kids on another adventure on Sunday. With the refinancing nearing completion, this looks as though this could actually be a really fun summer.