This letter, though very difficult to put in words, is being written with love and friendship pouring from our hearts.
Some may be shocked to read this and it’s not easy to say…but we’d rather you hear this from the “horses’ mouths,” than through word of mouth. As of September 5, we will officially be separating, and Ted will be moving into an apartment in Attleboro.
This is a mutual decision, and one that we’ve put a great deal of thought into for well over a year. This decision was by no means made in haste.
Before anyone rushes to cast judgment, please understand that there are no bad guys in our situation. One of the things that both of us agree upon is that we will never—no matter what happens—be one of those couples that somehow can forget what we have meant to each other through the years. Not only have we been husband and wife, but also we have truly been best friends in every sense of the word—and that union, no matter what—has not changed. We will continue to remain best friends for our family—and for ourselves.
This decision was made in love and respect, and we in no way bear ill will toward each other. We will continue to spend lots of time together, and hope that all our friends will still see fit and feel comfortable inviting us to the same gatherings, parties, and events.
As you can probably imagine, this has been a very trying period of time for us. This is the reason that you may have noticed a certain silence from our end. Unfortunately, we have been living in our own little worlds, trying to make sense of what the future will hold. In some ways we have probably alienated ourselves from many friends who are dear to our hearts. We both sincerely apologize for not being there for some of your important events, and hope to start getting with it and pursuing our friendships further.
We ask for your understanding and hope there will not be any harsh judgments made. We hope that, as friends, you will respect our decision. Our main focus has been and always will be the children, and our focus during the next few months will be centered upon helping to make this “make sense” to them. Separations are not something to be taken lightly, and we feel confident that we are going to get through this with dignity and LOVE for one another and for our children – no matter what the future holds.
Thank you for taking the time to read this and thank you for sharing our past 17 years together as a couple. We look forward to sharing many more years with all of you—in a different partnership, certainly, but still continuing as the best of friends.
With all our Love,
Ted and Josie
Reaction has been mostly sympathetic. Here was Michael's response. Is it any wonder that I love him so?
I know it must have been difficult to put your feelings into words and to do it so eloquently and lovingly. I want you both to know that it takes a great deal of strength to do what you know is necessary and I am behind your decision. I know the two of you will remain close and supportive of each other as well as continuing to be wonderful and devoted parents.
Whatever you need, I am there for you whenever you need it. My best to both of you.
Michael, The Love Puffin God
Joyce was really sweet, too.
Ted and Lisa,
I know that this was an incredibly difficult letter for you to write. I wish that I could come up with something profound to say in return, but the words aren't coming to me.
No matter what the future holds, I wish much love and happiness
always to the both of you and to your children. You have been and
will always be in my thoughts and in my heart.
Please beg my indulgence. I just want to be able to remember all of this